Jump to ContentWhat Is Love?
Well here is a psychological question being answered primarily by poets, songwriters, and clergy. What is love? So here is a proposed answer for people interested in the psychology of love.
Love is like a pyramid, four sided and therefore with four “cornerstones”. These “cornerstones” (tenants) are: paradox, equality, transcendence and intentionality.
Paradox refers to the fact that the very person who can hurt us the most is the very person we have to be most open with.
Equality is the choice not to raise anybody up on a pedestal, nor to put any person “down”.
Transcendence is two-fold: one is the offering of unconditional positive regard, two is the belief that intimate love rides above the turbulent waters of fear (the opposite of love is not hate, it is fear).
Intentionality. People don’t just fall into love. It is a choice and a decision.
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